Wow, I am really sorry to hear about your situation.

I wonder what your husband is missing? Has he been successful at work? I ask because I had some of those same feelings you mentioned, when I lost my job, but never enough to want to leave my wife, but it affected her and she left.

Men are idiots. We don't know how to share feelings, we don't know how to talk about disappointment or sadness, or whatever. We think we have to be tough and macho all the time and it wears on us! We crack or we do stupid stuff or we think the grass will be greener if we leave our current life and start a new one.

Just be kind, don't argue, show him something he's not used to - civil conversation and genuine caring. Don't even talk about the relationship. If he brings it up, talk nicely. Set the environment so he feels safe, and you feel safe and see what a difference it makes.

I truly hope things work out for you and your family.

We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.

3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...