You know my H is just the same. Everyone is always complimenting me, but from him I get well you're looking better or you are getting there. At first he was always asking how much I had lost, but never really saying how good I looked. Although he did one time say I looked better than he had seen me look in a long time. Wow! Believe me your H sees it, he just doesn't want to admit. Do for yourself and one day he will be like whoa, what did I give up.
You know I ran into a HS boyfriend who hasn't seen me in 20 years so he didn't see me when I was really heavy, only after this recent weight loss. He was telling me how gorgeous I still was, complimented me on my clothes, and even how good I smelled. He even called and checked up on me a few times, until I started ignoring his calls. You know I'm sure this is how affairs start with the compliments and all, but I take my vows seriously.
I'm kinda at a standstill on my weight right now. I need to get our and exercise. I lost all of this weight without exercising. Imagine how much I'll lose if I'd get moving. I'm trying to find a walking partner. Now that the school year is winding down DD doesn't stay as busy so maybe I'll get motivated.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
thats the attitude yoyo. i have found that walking is a stress reliever for me. i will get so mad and stressed that i will go walk and it makes a world of difference. good luck!
me-30 h-38 m-11 yrs s-6 s-7 ss-13 h left-april 21,2007 found out of ea april 1, 2007
Don't ask your husband if he notices your weight loss, he's blind right now. You just keep going for YOU and you'll feel good regardless of what he does.
And time to make new memories!!! I actually had the best summer ever during my divorce. After a couple months of depression I finally detached, made lots of friends and had some really fun times. Perhaps you can eventually find another mom to trade babysitting with...
By the way, I think you are a sweet, amazing person and just from your posts I can tell you are very beautiful exactly where it counts.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
runningoutoftime thank u actually i am about to cry. my bday is on memorial day and i wanted to take the kids to florida for memorial day weekend but my h paid the bills and gave me $200.00. that is suppose to be for gas, food, and whatever else is needed. He is suppose to pay more but he needs the money for their new apartment. right now it is not mandated by the courts that he pay anything so i guess i should be counting my blessings that he gave me that to last until the 31st. anyway point being that the trip will have to wait until later. my h dropped the bomb about ow when we were in fl around easter and i was miserable so i really wasn't much fun for the kids. i just hope this time around i can get over my h and enjoy myself and the kids. of course some days i think my kids are the only reason i am able tomake it from one day to the next.
me-30 h-38 m-11 yrs s-6 s-7 ss-13 h left-april 21,2007 found out of ea april 1, 2007
I not sure what state ya live in but get some day old bread and go to a lake or park with the kids. Feed the ducks. It does not take a lot of money to fun with kids, (except for gas $3.40 a gallon here). I’m not sure how old the kids are but a big box makes a neat fort. Maybe it’s because I’m a guy but my son and I can spend hours playing with ants and other bugs. Build some new memories for the kids.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
we just moved to the area in feb so i dont know where a pond with ducks are here but there is one in the town where i grew up(which is an hour and a half) i could make a day trip and do that. that is a good idea. thanks. i have taken the kids there b4 and they loved it. oh yea i feel for you on gas(ouch) and just think i was complaining this morning about prices and it is only $2.77 a gallon here. wow
me-30 h-38 m-11 yrs s-6 s-7 ss-13 h left-april 21,2007 found out of ea april 1, 2007
ok guys i need your advice. my h is moving in with the ow today and i just want to scream. but what is driving me nuts is my h. he keeps telling me that he is so sorry for how everything turned out and for the way that he has handled it but he wants to be with the ow. he believes that they are ment to be together. anyway he keeps telling me that he is sorry i am still his best friend and that he wants us all to get along. he even wants to be at my wedding and dance with me when i get remarried. but at the same time he is the one that did wrong and it is not his heart that was torn to shreds. nor was his life the one that was turned upside down. i don't even know what to do and i am definetly not ready to be friends with the ow. i cant even stand to think about her yet alone have to deal with her at my house or on family occasions. am i just being rude? please tell me what u think .
me-30 h-38 m-11 yrs s-6 s-7 ss-13 h left-april 21,2007 found out of ea april 1, 2007
A quote from the wise and honorable frank_d comes to mind. "true friends don't do what you are doing to friends." You do not have to be friends with anyone you don't want to be friends with. Lost- the most important thing you need to do is take care of yourself and the kids.
You will survuve this. My W moved out about a month ago now. I still miss her terribly, but I am surviving and so will you.
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
what i don't understand is why wont my h leave me alone. he made his choice and he chose her. now why won't he just leave me alone and let me live my life. no i don't want to hate him forever or always argue but it is to painful for me to even think about them together much less have to deal with being around the being together. i don't know what to do. any advice on what is going on with my h?
me-30 h-38 m-11 yrs s-6 s-7 ss-13 h left-april 21,2007 found out of ea april 1, 2007
Yes, another frank quote. "he is nuts" the A is an endorphin and he is addicted right now. You can either get on the runaway train with him, or get off the train and donot allow him to drag you back on. Eventually it will crash, and you will then decide if you are going to help him or walk on.
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
anyway he keeps telling me that he is sorry i am still his best friend and that he wants us all to get along. he even wants to be at my wedding and dance with me when i get remarried. but at the same time he is the one that did wrong and it is not his heart that was torn to shreds. nor was his life the one that was turned upside down. i don't even know what to do and i am definetly not ready to be friends with the ow. i cant even stand to think about her yet alone have to deal with her at my house or on family occasions. am i just being rude? please tell me what u think .