Hi, LFL.
Quote:"What if the sex issue was never "fixed." What would you do? "

That is a loaded question. I don't know that the two of us are similar enough for a one to one comparison, so what I would do, should not directly apply to you.

That being said; My greatest "emotional need" is sex - connected sex. It is basically my only need from my wife, I can get by without much else. That makes me a bit odd, but it does fit with my sex drive being what it is.

So, in my case, I had come to the point of leaving the marriage if we couldn't address the sexual issue. It wasn't that I didn't love my wife and care for her, I did, and I didn't want to leave our history or even the comfort of our home. Regardless, I knew that growing old, my need unmet, was going to leave me an angry, resentful old man. I didn't want to end up that way.

I guess what you are going to have to figure out, is what percentage of the mix is sex in your overall relationship, and make a decision from there.

I hope that helps.

-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.