well, as you said you both came from divorces, so when you got married you both agreed to have separate accts. In my case we have joint accts. If he is being so defensive when you ask about the mortgage and is still trying to buy happiness, I highly recommend you bring up C, suggest you both go together, and once there hopefully the MC will tell him to seek a T for his depression, which is what he seems to be having by your earlier posts.
It might be to late to wish to have joint finances, he might think you are trying to control him or something. What remains is to sit down and talk about savings and how to handle the mortage since it does affect your credit, he can't ruin your record like that. Trust can begin by him being accountable for his share.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
