I can totally relate to what you and GEL are saying... I've had that total-fit kind of sex, too, and my bf just won't do it, not interested. To him it's gross and disgusting, and yes, I've talked til I'm blue in the face. We've been to THREE couple counselors, for Pete's sake.
NOP, what makes you think that any guy, if shown, will just do these simple things (like gentle hair-pulling)? The fact that this is what "we" like isn't enough to push the guy out of his comfort zone. How would you suggest persuading a guy to step up the assertiveness even to the normal level?
