New here from MLC board - Need Advice

[cat03]

you are doing great! no expectations and no demands are the way to go.

Glad you won your battle w/snooping, it isnt easy and it is a habit hard to break, but once the monkey is off your back he stays out for good.
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So, I am feeling scared. I think he is a little bit as well.
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Of course you both are! you are waiting for the other shoe to drop and he's waiting for things to go downhill again, it is very very scary to put your heart out in the line again. My H still has issues in the back of his mind, it takes a long time, but little by little, with lots of Positive Mental Attitude you can repel fear.

I recommend you read "Healing the hurt in our marriage" it is a great piecing book. Hang in there,somedays it is one step forward and 2 steps back.