Thanks for the advice; I am well aware I need to make a choice…
I can choose either option and be fine with the result...
However at the moment I am happy taking the 3rd option and waiting and watching.
I am going to counseling for three reasons:
1. To help my daughter 2. To help myself 3. To see if there is a chance of fixing things with my Ex
The 3rd option is VERY far off and has a very slim chance of happening…
Going with advice I received from my Lawyer (when I called him to get the Divorce papers ready) to wait and see what comes of the counseling. Coupled that with the fact that for the first time EVER in our history together my Ex has stated she thinks counseling would be good option.
I feel justified in just waiting for a little while and I am ok with my current situation for the time being at least.
In Regards Ex’s Time with the kids:
Without going in to exacting detail lets just say that she is supposed to have them for ˝ the time and instead she has spent excessively more time on her BF then she has on being her kids mom.
My daughter will no longer accept that and has taken a stand to try to get her mother change her life.
That’s where that issue lies.
Continuing developments
Last night I needed some groceries so I called my Ex and requested that I could pick up my daughter and she would come help me get them.
There was no problem with this and the conversation with my Ex was pleasant and entertaining.
On the way to get groceries my daughter talked to me about what her mother told her Sunday night about this weekend while my Ex was working her BF and his son came up and stayed over.
My daughter commented that this made her angry and sad… while Her and her Brother were at my place and if Mom had time to visit with the BF and the Son on a weekend while she was working… Why did she not have time for “Us”? (meaning her and her brother)
She continued on to say “Mom is going away for a holiday with him next week… during days that is supposed to be “OUR time” with her…you would think that would be enough and she could have spent time with us.”
I validated my daughter’s feelings and encouraged her to write them in her journal when she got back to her moms place.
From the start I have encouraged my daughter to speak up to her mother about her feelings before their relationship was damaged beyond repair which was the direction it was going.
The only agenda I have in this situation is trying to help my daughter and my Ex communicate better with each other.
