Hi all, this is my first post so please bear with me if I'm not following the abbreviations, lingo, etc.
My husband moved out in February and I was six months pregnant at the time (am now 9 months pregnant). We had been having problems, fighting a lot and he had been distancing himself from the relationship for the last nine months (probably more, if I really think about it). I think there may be an OW, definitely an EA, maybe more. I tried to confront him about connections he had established with multiple OW via the internet and phone late last year but that led to more fighting and distancing himself from our relationship. We finally mutually decided that he should move out in February.
We are both in couples and individual counseling and he says that he wants to work on things but remains completely distant, defensive and angry at times. He has no idea why he feels this way but says that he is no longer good for me and our son (3 yrs old) and that he doesn't deserve us. He also says that he doesn't feel anything anymore (no sadness, regret, happiness, etc) and doesn't know who he is. Also says he doesn't want to hurt me any longer and that I don't know him/understand him. He is only 34, I can't imagine it would be a MLC.
Anyway, I have been lurking on this website since Feburary and am just now getting up the courage to write something. I had a terrible time with our situation at first but things have gotten easier as the months have progressed. Still, I am constantly hopeful we will work things out and he is still very involved in our lives. He visits his son numerous times a week and we still do many things together as a family. The problem is that, the majority of the time we spend together, he spends text messaging the EA.
I am pregnant with our second son and due any day now. I think he will be temporarily moving home to help with the baby. I just need some advice on how to handle having him back home or on our situation in general. Reading others posts over the last few months has really been a point of sanity for me, I'm now hoping to receive some advice of my own...
