LFL wrote:"I'm not into anything kinky. But I like a man to take charge. Hold me down, tug on my hair from behind, not to the point of pain, just clear restraint. H calls it "rape." I looked at him like he was nuts of course and said if it is something I WANT, it is hardly rape"

I thought when you said "aggressive" that you were talking about actual aggressive sex. What you describe is more along the lines of "assertive" sex play.

So, you really are having trouble with left over imagery from other man.

I know I have asked this, but is there any way you can get hubby to come and post here?

If not, I suggest you scour the internet for articles or books describing normal sex play between adults. If you found such information, would he read it?

-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.