sounds like MLC to me. Read the resources and keep posting.
Simon,
Seeing a hypnotherapist for myself was one of the first things I did. But you've got to keep it up--on your own through meditations etc.
MLCers do not appreciate our logical explanations of why they are behaving a certain way. Accepting responsibility nd validating--excellent. Rationalizing...it doesn't work. Too little too late, BLAH BLAH BLAH. I want out and you can't stop me...BLAH BLAH BLAH. And no, you can't. But neither can she stop you from contesting if that is what you feel is best. She cannot stop you from Standing, forgiving or loving unconditionally.
When Sweetheart tried to get me to see that WE were getting a divorce, I said "No, YOU are getting a divorce." I let him know it was his divorce (which fortunately he didn't get) and I was not a part of it--I told him I was not getting one; I would not recognize a divorce and I would remain his wife as our vows stated--'til death.
