Take a step back. Your W's actions, however bad they may be, do NOT require you to act in ways you do not want to. You feel backed into a corner. How much of this feeling is caused by your own thoughts and associations? How much is generated by the dramatic uproar on this thread? You talk about feeling like you need to slam her legally, yet a strong sense of doubt comes across. You don't want to do this. Nothing requires that you do. In fact, you reacting this way - vindictively - will do nothing to help you detach from this situation, which in turn will do nothing to help you keep the best interests of your children and even yourself in mind. Take a step away, find some peace and solitude and think about what you want, for yourself, without the influence of people (with nothing but good intentions) who don't know what's best for you.
You know what you need to do - the answer lies on the inside, not in the advice of anyone on the outside.
Be strong, hang in there. You've got a ton of people rooting for you.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
