LFL wrote:"But this om was the only one who ever "got" my desire for the...how shall I phrase it...assertive sex..to put it mildly"

Have you ever talked to hubby about this? Have you ever demonstrated it to him?

There is no inherent reason why he can't do this, and enjoy it. It's just a matter of experience and drive. If he has enough drive to stay erect and enjoy the act, and he can learn the basics, then he can do it.

You might be surprised what you can teach someone sexually with a little bit of effort.

How assertive do you like it? Spitting, pulling, restraint, choking? Is there a particular thing you don't think he can handle?

-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.