Oh hon, you are preaching to the choir about bread and water sex in comparison to hot/animalistic sex. I would LOVE, LOVE, LOVE that from my H...and yep, I've had that before too...it's what REALLY works well for me, but I'll probably never have that from my H.
Believe it or not, I have an XBF who connected with me sexually that way as well (horrible communicator though)...I didn't even know this guy felt like he loved me til I had made the decision to move on and feel in love with my late fiancee. Anyway...unfortunately, when I think about the kind of sex I'd like to have in my marriage...I can't help but remember him. So...yeah, I can relate.
