I must say I have been on this site for about 3 months and your sitch is the closest to mine that I have found. My W/ has said and done many of the very same things. My wife is in an EA, if not more with a younger Karate instructor. She too started hanging with this crowd. It was in Sept. that she first stated that she wanted to SEP... I begged and pleaded she agreed to stay..but all fall I really tried to address the issues she brought up, even her mother said during the holidays that she loves the new improved me. But it was not enough, the more I tried the more she pulled away, she began leaning in this kid, having lunch with him, talking to him 2/3 times a day. The guise was they were gonna take the school to the next level and my W would be able to spend more time at home for the kids. I noticed she was always ho hum around me and not really happy to see me. But Boy let him call- and she lit up like a christmas tree, that hurt. Anyway, we seperated, she was supposed to go to C. She went one time and that was it. A week later she told me she was not going to change her mind. A couple weeks later, she filed.
I have been using this site, Michelle's books, Homer Mac Donald, Mort Fortel, the BIBLE, BIBLE STUDY, THE SECRET and the law of attraction. Even Hypnotism- They all help give perspective. Until last night I really thought we were making progress, we agreed to try to settle custody issues and support. What a mistake, though I tried to avoid it, she had to tell me again that we are getting divorced... how our M was a failure and I let her down. I used the opportunity to speak about what GOD wants from H/W/Children...... I was able to explain the reason I thought she was having an A this fall, how lack of communication and her actions lead to my thoughts, not mistrust and "the Jealous monster" I accepted the responsiblity of letting her down and I failed our M in some ways. .... After a while I am beginning to think that God did guide me through last night, I felt at first that I had been left down, cause I didnt want to fight
Post again. tell me more..... Time does help... I would suggest that you develop a real personal relationship with your God or HP...
