You've answered my love questions. You love her in spades. That's the first time I've heard such emotion from you. It was all "zero romantic interest" previously.
Good move on popping by the gym with your tribe. Makes you look like even more of a leader.
IMO your W is still on the fence. She was going down a road of mystery and excitement and now she's stopped dead in her trracks eyeing the piece of candy and looking back to that ugly rut she's been living in.
Although your sitch is very tenuous I want to give you a ray of hope:
This from Mrs. Choc:
"We'll talk more. This isn't anything we are going to fix in a day. We need to take time and discuss things and figure out where we are. I love my family with all my heart and being in this place right now isn't anything I have ever wanted to happen. I guess maybe I was living in a fairytale thinking that you could just go through life with no problems, and I was never honest with myself because it would burst that bubble that I always had about what marriage should be..."
The key words here are "aren't gonna fix in a day," "love my family with all my heart", "maybe I was living in a fairytale," and "was never honest with myself."
Do you see the subtext here? If she were 100% sure she wanted out I doubt she would use "fix." Would probably end with "we need to discuss our options that would be fair to both of us." Etc.
The other fairytale and not being honest with self comments are a direct window into her taking responsibility for her foolish "pie in the sky" thinking. This sign of a conscience will go far in dealing with the older woman-younger man scenario with OM undoubtedly circling her thoughts IMO.
-Stigmata-
The difference between a warrior and an ordinary man is the warrior views everything as a challenge; the ordinary man views everything as either a blessing or a curse.
-Yaqui shaman Don Juan-
...and that holds 2x true for nice guy wussies, DJ
