I agree, it does get mundane, however, think about the alternative -- like when you & H were separated. Think about the reasons you decided to get back together and work on your M instead of staying w/ OM.

I get the "desire" thing.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10