Whore/Madonna

[Heywyre]

Lou - one of the easiest ways to explain the M/W complex is this way ...

When growing up, boys initially think nothing but the physical act of sex. As they get older the thought of love and sex blend together

In my H's case (and that of other men like GEL's) the two never blended together and remain separate.

They can only think of women for either sexual purposes OR for love (as in mothers, wives - the nurturing part). The thought of putting the two (love and sex) together is beyond their comprehension. I know it sounds weird but that's the way it is

These men are usually brought up by very cold and distant mothers that did not show them love or affection (in my H's case he was adopted and NEVER had a good relationship with his adoptive mother)

My H just can't fathom the two going together. Therefore, his A (x2) consisted of him contacting escort services because that is what they are for - sex. To have sex with me, disgusts him. It is ok to cuddle and give me a very superficial peck here and there, but sex? No way - that would be considered disrespectful and almost bordering on the thought of incest (thus the disgusting feeling)

Men that suffer from M/W complex look for women to fulfill the nurturing feelings they missed out of with their own biological mothers. When they find that "pure" woman, the thought of having sex is the same as having sex with their mother - not a very pleasant thought is it? And subconsciously, that is how they think so to stop that is quite the task.