Choc wrote:"Can you give me an example of this? Do you mean, be empathetic to her pain and treat her lovingly, but don't "go wobbly on us" either?"


I think what you said here will do nicely;
"I do think that what I will say (and this will be in person, because I want to look her square in the eyes) is "And I do intend to protect my interests here. I don't mind people flattering you, and I'm sure it makes you feel good, but if it goes beyond that, I will get involved, and it will be immediate and it will be forceful. You asked me for honesty, so there's brutal honesty for you."

-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.