Quote: ---------------------------------------------------------- I agree that H is stuck and you can help him get unstuck with the kind of strategy NOP suggests, but ONLY if he is willing to do most of the work. HE needs to own the problem and work to resolve it. You cannot fix it for him ----------------------------------------------------------
Of the folks I have worked with, the spouse contained the fix. The person stuck, only understands what is bothering them. They can own it (most already have), and do all sorts of mental gymnastics and yet the problem persists. It causes loss of sleep, depression, all of the dynamics you would expect from someone with OCD, even though the person stuck in the "loop" doesn't have the disease.
I have been researching this phenomenon for about 15 months now, and it is still in the dark recesses of psychological understanding.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
