I just worked with a guy that was stuck in a loop. His issue was that his wife didn't understand her part in the original event. When she finally did, then he started to recover from it.
This "stuck loop (obsessive loop)" seems to occur with men more than women, but it happens to both. Conventional wisdom that demands that the person stuck in the loop just "get over it" ends up breaking more marriages than it fixes. It is very commonly misunderstood, and is not an answer to the problem.
Having said all that, I don't know that you having sex that you don't want to have is the answer. Understanding what he believes transpired during the period in question does likely contain the element that will defuse the loop. I hope you have been brutally honest with him, and if you haven't, then you need to be.
Is there any chance your husband would participate here?
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
