"Forcing" her into getting a psychiatric evaluation or into counseling sounds like a great solution for you to try. Sol, I think it is great that you are seeing how you trigger her reactions as well. You have and are growing so much!
This morning I showed my W a book of an exceptional artist that passed away recently from leukemia - artist Keith Parkinson http://www.keithparkinson.com/main.php She never before took an interest in that kind of artwork, but now she has. I told her that artists like him that are in are high demand in the publishing business can receive around $8K per project, that's about $8K per month, more or less. She got curious, she actually asked me for the book, and took interest.
I wish I had some AD's right now, I could use a few of them.....
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~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
What is going to happen before this weekend in your sitch?
Do not be a sucker here SOL. Stand your ground and do what you have to do to protect yourself and your kids. Your W needs help and if she is not going to get it you are screwed the longer you stick around here and so are your kids.
SOL, no offense but you wife has a lot of issue not to mention is playing you like a fiddle right now. As soon as she feels that you are really going to leave she place nice. When she feels comfortable she picks fights (WITH YOUR HELP OFCOURSE).
This is where you need to "Man the F^CK Up" and take control for your own sanity as well as you kids. You continue to travel down the cheeseless tunnel and are not doing anything about it. Mostlikely because of the kids and I totally understand that. However, she is not going to change if you do not help her in anyway.
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IF YOU CHANGE THE DYNAMICS OF THE RELATIONSHIP THE RELATIONSHIP HAS TO CHANGE!!
So what are you going to do SOL?
I am not trying to be a D!CK but I just see the same thing over and over and over again because you are putting her above your own wellfair as well as your kids.
THINK ABOUT IT BEFORE YOU RESPOND....
Your friend always, Ben
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
Sol - I see a pattern here as well. Your wife needs help. She is emotionally unstable. She tries to make nice with you and then in a few days she will dog you again. Stop the craziness! End this destructive cycle!
M: 29 H: 27 Married: 6/22/02 Bomb: 6/12/06 H moved out: 6/16/06 Signed D papers: 1/8/07 D final: 5/14/07
Sol, I wanted you to read this post again. This is comming from a really good resource and you should make sure you read it a couple of times so I am posting it again.
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Sol
...what disturbing news today...I'm so sorry to hear this.
First, if it happens again, do call the police...she can be Baker-Acted for 72 hours...also, suicidal threats are to be taken very seriously. Your wife is ill...she has enormous anger towards herself and is projecting it towards you. Try to steer clear of her...as far as moving out...don't...let her move out...stay in that house.
At this time, yes, an attorney is needed, for your rights and those of your SS and daughter. When violence starts, it's time to end the marriage...no amount of guilt, sorries, pleading, or begging will ever justify or allow for abuse...it's past that now - she's out of control.
As far as the flowers versus gold...rubbish, anything given to another should be appreciated due to the fact it was a gift. Her immaturity shows clearly...as well as her lack of financial responsibility in regards to the late house payment.
I've always been here for you...I will continue to do so.
BTW, great artwork...Ben forwarded to me,. via e-mail your web- site...very talented, my friend...excellent work.
Don't worry, protect yourself...
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
