Yes, NOPkins, he does say that I don't get it. He said that clearly in the session yesterday. I admit, it has been SO LONG that I tire of hearing about it and when I start getting hateful BACK at him, he says it makes it all the worse, but I guess I do that because I am tired of being trampled on and drug through the mud. I usually regain my resolve shortly afterwards, but I realize I gave him fuel last night. After I said, "go have sex with someone if that's what you think you need." He chuckled, sarcastically, and said, "You said it." I did think he MIGHT. He came home smelling like Axe body spray, (he had been worried before our appt if he smelled from work that day). He didn't tell me if he ate/went to a bar or what, but I assume he did. I simply asked, "Did you get your work done?" He said yes. I said, "I wish you would have called me to let me know you were ok, but I'm glad you're home safe." He said, defensively, with a raised tone of voice, "I told you I had work to do!" I said, "yes, but you didn't say you would be doing it till nearly midnight. Anyway, I'm glad you're home safe," and walked in the other room. So he almost sounds like he was at his office the whole time? I would think he would have gone to our local pub after working some, to get some dinner and a beer and entertain the idea of talking to a female, perhaps.
Anyhow, thank you, NOPkins, I will specifically address this in my individual session next week. All he has told me about "what I can do" is that laundry list of sexual things. We mentioned this specifically during the heated discussion on the drive home last night. I mentioned it and he said, "and you still don't get it, you just think I'm trying to manipulate you to get what I want" I said "yes, I do get it." He said, "what is it then?" I said, "to prove to you that you're the one I really want to be with and I'm passionate about you." He seemed a tiny bit stunned that maybe I did get it, but followed it with another question. Oh and at one point, he said, you keep talking about the sex as if it's the main issue and it's not. I said that I felt that way because he had hammered it in. Anyhow, I'm rambling now. Thank you for your help. I don't know how we are ever going to get over this. He acts EXACTLY like someone who has recently been cheated on.
