Quote: ------------------------------------------------------------- Do what you have to do! GO have sex with someone. See how much easier that makes things." I know that I wasn't responding in the right way -------------------------------------------------------------
Don't provide him that kind of fuel. He may take you up on your offer and then blame it on you.
I have given the 1992 thing a lot of thought. I understand that he is stuck. He is in a thought/pain/repeat loop that he can't get past. It may not sound legitimate to you, but it is very real to him. The loop is rooted in a "truth that he can not change".
Here is what you have to do. You have to talk to him about this in detail, and find out what part of that truth, he doesn't think that YOU get. Then you need to do whatever it takes to understand it. Once he believes that you get it, he will phase out of the loop, go through a period of anger, then eventually the whole event will lose its sting, and your relationship will improve or at least be in a position to improve.
Did you follow that?
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
