Hi Dad- Thanks for your suggestions. I will check into those books.
Originally Posted By: dadinpain
From your post, it is very clear that you have lots of expectations from your husband - statements like you are not the problem and can't fix the problem etc. First is a realization and acceptance that you contributed in some measure to what happened and work on fixing that.
Maybe I should have said that I don't believe that I am the problem now. I have been listening to my H and trying to make changes since before he left. Since he left, I have made even more changes but he doesn't seem to be able to see those since he says he doesn't think I am capable of change. I have told him I am willing to do whatever it takes to try to make him happy but it still isn't good enough but he still he isn't sure he wants to be married. It makes no sense to me why he isn't really committed to trying. He goes through the motions some times but then completely backs away for no reason...like right now, it appears that he isn't even returning my phone calls.
I feel as if I am doing everything wrong to help put my marriage back together.
