Piecing - H still contacts OW

[rac1990]

Dear ourcrisis,
I am going through the exact same thing with my husband. I am new here and I really didn't know where to post when I started but my thread is under I need support with my marital problem. My H Met his friend at work. I found out in March and it has shattered my world. My husband felt that I had put everyone else above him for the last 3-4 years so he found someone who would listen to him. Now that I have opened my eyes and realized what I am in jeopardy of losing, he says he can't just kick her to the curb. She will always be in his life friend wise. He swears there has never been anything but friendship. They talk daily, text message and yes even meet after work. I hate it, all I do is sit at home waiting for my cell to ring or for him to walk in the front door. It takes him exactly 1 hour to get to our house from work so I know just as well when he has made a pit stop. It takes him 2 hours. Everyone on here is telling me to just do as he ask and give him the space he is asking for. If I give him his space, he says everything with us will eventually get back to normal. He says he loves me more than anything in this world and he isn't going anywhere but if I continue to monitor his ever move and phone call ( I am logged into our verizon account 300 times a day) checking every 15-20 min to see when and how long his last call or text message was. It's driving me crazy.
U and I and our H's are around the same age. Read my thread and see if any of it sounds farmiliar. I wish you the best and I know exactly where you are coming from. I have the exact same feelings you do.

M-37
H-37
S-14
D-10
Together 20 years
Married 16 1/2
Bomb March 11, 2007