If it got to divorce, and we had to go through all the pain of selling the house, separating the assets, her being with another male etc etc etc I don't think I could accept her back even if she decided that was not for her.
I am trying to salvage our M and family, once there is nothing to salvage, I don't think I would want to invest in her again (with the chance that she will turn again).
Also, after our assets are divided, I know she will "piss it up against a wall" as far as her lifestyle with no restrictions go, and eventually she will be left with nothing.
That is the way I am feeling at this point in time.
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
