Quote: ------------------------------------------------- Should I respond to this?
I do understand that my wife is unhappy and I understand why she is unhappy. However, I don't understand why she feels that divorce is the only answer. I think all can be worked out. Her email sounds very final. -------------------------------------------------
She didn't write it to you, so don't respond.
Her desire for divorce is to fill a perceived need. The problem is you don't know what, exactly, that need is.
Since you don't know what her reasons are, you are naturally frustrated. It doesn't make sense to you because you are willing to work things out and you think that should be enough for her to want to as well. Again, there is that little problem with you not knowing the reasons she needs to divorce you.
Add to the above the fact that, so far, she has not filed, and you have a temporary mystery. In real life, almost all mysteries have simple explanations. You need to find out what that explanation is.
You can ask "why" until your nose bleeds and the only thing you will possibly hear back is your own echo.
So, stop asking us and go find out.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
