When i read your posts, I feel like i'm married to the same woman.
My wife is the same place, but instead of looking for apartments, she is house hunting. She doesn't want to feel "in limbo". She wants to move forward with her new life.
I know her too well, and i know that if we will ever have a chance in the future, she is going to have to ride this out all the way. Maybe once she has her new "more wonderful, fulfilling" life, she will realize what a good man i am, and remember all the good times she has decided to forget about.