I am starting to notice a positive correlation between her eating and my actions. When I become mysterious and leave her wondering is when she most often turns to food. Obviously her eating habits worry me but it is somewhat reassuring to know that I am getting a reaction out of her.
I have discussed all of this with my counselor whom I have been seeing every two weeks for the last six weeks. My GF does not know that I am going to talk to a counselor. My counselor feels that I am doing fine but is worried about my GF. He really wants to see me to talk to her about seeing someone. He knows that this is a fine line to walk but he feels that if I word it correctly I may be able to get her to talk to a counselor.
Basically, he wants me to say something along these lines, “I wanted you to know that I really do care for you and that will never go away. I wanted to tell you that I have been seeing a counselor for the past several weeks. The reason that I am seeing someone is because I was not happy with the person that I had become. There were aspects of our relationship that I could have improved upon and been a better partner. I wanted to change my behaviors for the better so that I could apply to the relationships have with people.
I am deeply concerned about some of the things you have told me along with some of your behaviors. I can only begin to comprehend how stressful your life has been over the past several months. I would really like to see you go to speak with someone for your own well being. I am telling you this because I am your friend.”
So what do you guys think? I don’t know when I am going to bring this up. The timing will have to be perfect.
I need some more advice. My buddy is getting married out of state (about 9 hours away) the second week of June. I would be staying out of state for 3 days and 2 nights. I would really love to have my GF come and think it would be a great opportunity to spend some time together. However, I have yet to ask her. I was thinking about asking her within the next day or two. Basically, I am going to tell her that I would like her to come to the wedding with me as my guest. Thoughts?
Sorry for the last two posts being so long! I need to start updating you guys more frequently
