Sorry for missing in action for the past week. Work has kept me really busy for the last week. I have been putting the final touches on a project I had been working on for the past 7 months. Ok, enough about work...
Two Sundays ago, May 5th, the GF and I went out for our nightly walk. She usually goes out on the walks with me, however if she is runs late (30+ min) getting home from work or if she doesn't feel like walking then I still go out for my stroll.
Anyway, during our walk the conversation was going good. I had her sit down on a bench and told her that I had something that I wanted to tell her. In short (and softly spoken), I told her that I due to some of the things that she had said to me in the past and her actions lately that I felt she wanted to tell me something but that she felt that she couldn't open up to me. I reassured her that she could tell me anything and that I wouldn't judge or get angry with her. I also told her that if she had any doubt about moving out that it didn't have to be this way and that we could talk about it.
I kept my conversation short and sweet. She really didn't say anything while I spoke. After I was done, she gave me a hug and said, "Thank you." We then walked back home and didn't discuss the matter any further. Before I went to bed, I reiterated that she could talk to me at anytime. Once again, she hugged me and said, “Thank you.” So far, she has yet to come to me to talk about anything about our relationship.
Since we moved in together, we have been using the dishes her mother gave her. Her mother wanted the dishes back and bought my GF a new set. About a week ago, my GF gave the dishes back to her mom and picked up the new ones. I still have quite a few plates but only a few bowls. Since she brought the dishes home, they have sat in the box in the kitchen. However, she has opened up the box to take a single bowl out to use since the others were dirty. I have been hoping that she would unpack the dishes and put them away as a sign that she planned on staying but that has yet to happen.
Also during this past week, she baked me my favorite cookies (as a belated B-day gift). She has picked me up snacks at the store on her way home. She has brought me snacks back home from her work place. She has been taking showers with the bathroom door cracked open. Also, communication between us has been friendly just as it has been for the past few weeks.
Also, the beginning of last week I made it a point to compliment her, be kind, and help her out with some things that she needed to do. On Thursday I got home from work around 6 pm and she was sleeping on the couch. My dad called me to meet him for a few beers so I changed and went out. I didn’t leave a note on where I went, but I made it obvious that I was at home at some point (doing my 180s). When I got home, she was still sleeping on the couch. However, I noticed that she had awakened at some point and ate another entire roll of Oreos. I went straight to bed for the evening.
On Friday, she had to work until 11 pm. I ended up going out directly after work with some co-workers. I didn’t even stop at home to change nor did I call her to tell her that I would be home late (doing my 180s). I ended up getting home around 2 am and the GF wasn’t there. I noticed that she had come home after work for at least a little bit. Another roll of Oreos were gone. I went straight to bed. I ended up getting up around 4 am to grab a drink. I noticed that at some point in the evening after she got home she ate another roll of Oreos, a cupcake, and a bowl of cereal!
I woke early Saturday morning to do some running around. The GF was still sleeping. I was headed back home around 2:30 pm and figured that I would call the GF to see if she needed anything from the store. Plus, I figured that I should make some type of contact with her since I hadn’t seen her in close to 3 days. I also figured that she would be pretty upset with me that I had been MIA for the last couple of days.
When she answered the phone, she seemed all upbeat and happy to talk to me. Literally, the first thing out of her mouth was, “It’s been so weird I haven’t seen you in three days. Every time I wake up, you are not at home.” It turned out that she was on her way to her mom’s (about 2 hours away) to spend some time with her for mother’s day. She told me that she would see me Sunday evening when she got out of work.
Well, that pretty much sums up the last week. I am a bit confused on how I should act. Her complaints in the past that I felt unappreciated and felt were more like roommates. So I have been making efforts to leave her notes or tell her that I appreciate it when she does something (clean the apartment, buy me something from the store, etc.). I also compliment her when she looks nice and so on.
However, I am also doing things like not telling her that I am coming home after work, not leaving notes on where I am going, and other “mysterious” things. When I do these things I usually do get a reaction of some form out of her. She usually ends up asking me where I went, who I was out with, etc. Also, when I do things that I am certain will really upset her (like not seeing or speaking to her for almost 3 days), I am shocked to discover that these are the times she is the most kind to me!
