Ok...just my humble opinion here, but you may as well just sit through the next couple of sessions and work on your communication skills...cause it's going to take someone who knows what they are dealing with to get your H to make some real progress.
You already know where the "wait and see" approach will go, you've been living it. So just don't let him drag things out past one or two more sessions before you ask for that referral...k?
Sounds like you two are in a better place right now...and you are really at the beginning of obtaining that trusting relationship (which helps tremendously).
