I totally agree that your wife needs a psych e-val...her anger was evident when you were both dating (red flag)...her molestation in the early years by her father had a double whammy...trust in a father figure/men and sexual betrayal...
She cannot afford the house on her own and buy your half out, thus, it would be better to buy her out or sell...your attorney will advise you. As far as having her tested for her suicidal outcries...yes, by all means...you could be saving her life.
You are strong in character Sol, you know what to do...cut the loss and set her free...if you can't prove adultery, don't worry about it...they'll get her on the e-val...for her own protection. You have a lot of support here from everyone....
