Whore/Madonna

[Heywyre]

GEL - no he doesn't have any experience in this field. We are going with the "let's see what happens for the next couple of sessions" and take it from there. If we haven't got very far, C has already said he knows of a good ST he can recommend to us (and I have heard of him too, so I know he's good)

Lou - as for asking my H what he likes and dislikes, it's a waste of time, at this point, because he sees ALL sex as dirty and wrong, even the stuff "girls don't like ..." stuff. His whole outlook on sex is distorted.

We had a pretty good talk at the C this afternoon, we centered on affection and our homework is to show each other more of it until our next session on Friday. C said sometimes it might feel "mechanical" but we need to get past that point to get to the good stuff.

H seems quite open to making the effort, which is wonderful in itself. We have agreed to make an effort and if he gets to a point where he feels uncomfortable, we will stop and talk through his emotions about it right there and then. I think this is the only way of jumping the hurdles we are facing.

H also, on our way home, said "oh by the way, you got your Visa bill today but I didn't get mine because I changed cards and I'm using the XXXX one now and that cut off isn't until the 19th - just wanted you to know that." I thanked him very much for letting me know, he smiled and gave me a big hug.