From what you have told us, your wife needs serious help. You may have to do something this drastic to get her the help she needs, before she seriously hurts you or your children.
I know the decision you are trying to come to terms with is not an easy one. Our stiches are very different, but the abuse is very similar.
I was the one who did wrong, and I have hung in there for 18 months after the S**t hit the fan. although the physical abuse seems to have stopped, the mental abuse continues...My H can be very sweet and affectionate, then at the drop of a dime, become a completely different person.
I am at the same decision as you are. Do I leave this situation for my own well being? My H will not give up my D. She even told me 2 days ago, Daddy says if you try to take me, he will kill you...this from the mouth of a 10 year old...
I have no advice, but wanted to empathize with you as I know how tough of a decision it is.
