Jeannette,
I was raised Catholic/Baptist. I feel guilty for EVERYTHING. SMILE


Hey Everyone,
I wanted to take a moment to personally tell you this story.By telling this story, I am not implying that this will happen in anyone else’s case including my own but thought that I would share. I have watched this from a distance with my very own two eyes...

A neighbor’s husband flipped out in what I now know was MLC in about 2003/2004 when he retired and became a stay at home Dad. He was about 40-42ish at the time. Obviously with too much time on his hands he got into an A. Please note, she went back to school around that time for her Master’s, they were having a house built in Florida so that when she was done they would relocate and start their new lives at just about the time their children would be going into junior high school.

Out of the clear blue, he drops the bomb and his was well planned. He had gotten an apartment, had his mail sent their for over a year!!!! It was his lovenest fo him and OW. He files the papers and she goes with the FLOW. She cuts contact, files child support and moves on with HER life. They see each other for child exchange, at school events and for joint activities with the kids. Other than that, no contact. I have even tried to talk to her about him and what she felt about the situation and she would say, I have moved on. I don’t care. He has some nerve doing this to my kids. I don’t care about him now, let him lie in his bed.

He starts to realize how much he will be losing and literally starts trying to get back with her at every turn.

She keeps her distance saying that too much damage has been done and she is not interested any longer. I told her several times that hers was not cooked and that she would be getting a better man but she is determined to move on without him and decides to move to California. He puts the kibosh on it by taking her to court for custody. This goes on for well over a year. She is livid. She gave him all the room in the world to breathe while collecting cs and moving on with her life. I was convinced that they would not be together even though I know he was cooking. I told her to come to this site and she said that she had no interest because of how he was hurting her children. She did not want him back etc,etc.

I last saw her in December, just days before she says that her D was to be final. But there is some kind of grace period before a d is really really final in this state. So the waiting period was to end April 23. He went to court on April 13 and CANCELLED it.

That’s right folks, after 4-5 years of MLC and him filing, he went to court and CANCELLED IT. Called it off, put the kibosh on it in the eleventh hour.

He called her and apologized and asked to meet with her. They talked and he asked her to move to Florida to the home that he had been having finished for them (this is what he has been doing since December) and they are moving 4th of July weekend to Florida. He will pay the mortgage, she will start her new career and the munchkins get a new house in a gated community with a yellow brick road to the pool. He will live with the family again he said. Even if it means that she lives on one side of the house and her on the other is what he told her. Anything to be with his family again and that he loves her and wants to be with her. She was not too quick to jump at this and is going with some reservations given everything that has happened but I give her credit for even giving it a go at this stage.

They do come back, it is just a matter of where you are in your own growth and development and it they have not caused too much damage. I love it when a plan comes together. I have a feeling that they are going to be fine. A fresh start never hurt anyone.