You can't blame him for checking with LFL to see if she is interested/available. He did nothing wrong in contacting her.
I disagree with this. I think he did everything wrong with contacting a married woman, beforehand and now. So she was separated at the time. She was still married, and he knew that. What is LFL going to do if he follows up on his email, saying something like "I never heard back from you on my previous email(s) so I was just checking in...." What if LFL's H happens to see this message?
You can't blame a guy for trying-- he doesn't know if she's still married or not.
This OM made a decision to see a married woman, separated or not. I think he knew what he was getting into. So in this case, I say yeah, you can blame him for trying.
He also got the message that LFL's reconciliation may not have been too certain, leaving the door open for him to check back again. Maybe this is where LFL needs to step up to the plate with her H, because if the OM did not get a clear message, maybe LFL's H has not received a clear message either.
