seeing other people who want my marriage to work AND for me to be happy, write out the different points of view actually helps me. Today I'm calling my L to see what kind of "friendly but safe" document I can have written up that will lengthen my legal rights and keep California law applicable, for a year or so. I know a few ways to do that even without the document (like pay CAL taxes and keep this house, etc) OR maybe that if we end up D'd, that I'd have physical albeit joint custody of d9.
I hate things like this as I am convinced that 95% of couples who sign pre-nupt are doomed and that the pre-nuptial reflects the lack of committment or distrust....guess I'm not totally trusting right now...(duh).
Okay, my son flies in for the summer today so I'm off to pick that boy/man up at the airport soon.
Thanks folks and keep sharing your thoughts b/c I value them and it's nice to know I am not a crazy woman.
Feeling grief about d18's going to college feels like an exaggeration to write down, but it's not. I have to separate which feelings of loss are related to what/whom and just deal with each as best I can... j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
