Hi Everyone, Its been a couple of months since I posted. I thought I would bring you up to date. I moved back in in March and thought we were going to really try to work things out but I was so the only one trying. My WAS has decided to file in July and there seems to be no turning back this time. I hope everything is going well fot the rest of you.
2 Ti 1:7 For God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power,and of love, and of a sound mind.
Hi UA, So good to here from you. I am back to being a mess again. I thought we were going to work on it. I guess I was the only one willing. She said she was willing to but she never gave us time to really reconect. She was still talking to her ex boyfriend who is engaged and I knew if but she was still telling me he was just a friend. That may be true. But the hiding of the calls made it so I had a hard time trusting. I loved her with all my heart and gave up everything for her. But she carries baggage around from her past. I guess I was just used so she could get back home. I wish she would have done counseling with a coach to. I know it could have been different. But as long as she thinks I am the only one with a problem theres not much I can do. I will be leaving with in the month to go back home to Oregon. I will miss her dearly. This was my soul mate. I know it in my heart. I guess I love to much and to deeply. My belief in god makes it impossible for me to file and I don't know what to do when it comes time to signing the D papers. I would rather not sign and just let the courts take care of it. I made a vow to her and god and if she wants to break that vow it will have to be on her and not me. I have not had time to review your sitch but I hope all is going well for you.
2 Ti 1:7 For God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power,and of love, and of a sound mind.
Same stuff I love you but I am not in love with you. She has shut the door on her heart. We were still staying at her parents house waiting for her house to become available for us to buy. Well it finally became available and she signed the papers. She had a lot of stress at work and with her house.taking so long. I still have not been able to get a job here in Michigan, But I an still making a couple of thousand a month from my Real Estate business I finally got in to a progrsm to get a Class A CDL license so I can drive trucks or commercial vehicles. I start school on Wednesday and it for 3 - 4 weeks. There are a lot of those jobs available. I have already had multiple job offers for when I graduate.
2 Ti 1:7 For God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power,and of love, and of a sound mind.
I don't know your situation, but why is she waiting? It sounds like she's not getting something she needs and she's not sharing with you what it is???
I can only speak for my W but she felt completely unsafe financially because of my erratic pay and that led to her feeling unsafe in other areas - emotionally, even physically.
I look at it this way, I have until Aug 2 to get my [censored] together financially. You have til July whenever. Do whatever you can to ease her stress at home and get one of those jobs so she'll fell more secure. When that happens, perhaps some doors will open up to discuss repairing the R. GOOD LUCK!!!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
Sorry to bust in like this because I was definitely sorry to read this thread this morning when you first posted but that statement I quoted above has to be the biggest load of bull I've heard from you since you first came here a few months ago.
Ask yourself this: while you were busy loving "too much and too deeply", how much of THAT REALLY boiled down to kissing her ass???
I'm thinking Frank_D could help you get in touch with your "authentic self" that he's always talking about to the other men. Basically, man up. With dignity, self-respect, courtesy, boundaries and ....ahem....balls.
But maybe I've got it all wrong.
Either way, I'm really sorry things are as they appear to be so I'm really not going to bust your chops for jumping the gun back in March...
Ain't it great that with God we can get a "do-over"?
