Sol, sorry it came to this, but I think you are doing the right thing. You and your D don't need to be in that kind of atmosphere. Was she married before? What happened to her other M? Same type of things?

Talk to an attorney and get all the info you can. I also agree, don't move out. I know that may be hard, but you don't want to give her any leverage w/ the house, your D, etc.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10