I read through this and I don't like where it is or is heading.
He isn't that into you. If he was interested in reconciliation he would be doing more pursuing. He's doing a few things here and there, but whoopedy-doo, mowing the lawn. And the four more weeks thing...whose idea was that? Did you agree he could come back? Why did you?
If you just met him...and he had shown the amount of interest he has so far, would you move in with him? I'm betting the answer is no. I think that any of that stuff...even considering reconciliation is premature.
You aren't ready for reconciliation. You haven't reached the point where life is complete without him in it. If you still ask yourself how to endure the pain...then you aren't ready. If you have to ask yourself what he's doing or thinking, then you aren't ready.
I suggest that you make several changes in this scenario. I would have a frank discussion that you don't know where this is heading and you really don't like the idea of being on hold. I'd tell him that moving in isn't a good idea...it's not how you start making a new relationship. I think you need a little more of the distance and independence that divorced people have. I suggest you quit letting him come over at will. I suggest you start mowing your own grass. I think that you need to be straight with him that this current relationship isn't cutting it, you are interested in a new relationship with him, but not like this. Tell him you think that you both need some time to be independent and you don't think he should swing by anymore except to pick up your son for visitation.
But, take that with a grain of salt. Being a guy, I just don't see what he's doing as a sign he wants to try....more like trying to keep things kind of alive with you in case he can't handle being single or find someone else.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
