Wife hits me.....need help....

[ford]

[quote=sol1696I should not have to suffer any more physical abuse from her. [/quote]

thats the truth, sol. when the physical crap starts, it's time to hit the road. make sure you document her behavior, her outbursts. you deserve better.

[~Sol]

^^^^

[~Sol]

Also, wife was acting hysterical this morning, literally screaming 2 inches away from my face and into my ear. I still have a ringing sound from that.

When I got home later this afternoon, she again came up to me and punched me in the arm, saying I shouldn't talk "crap" about our problems to other people. I called our real estate agent, who is also a friend, and I told her about my wife's suicide threats. She agreed to call her and talk to her. I also need to know how I can sell the house if wife is not willing.

I am going to the court building in town as soon as I can to start the paperwork. Maybe that will give my wife a "wake-up call"???

I'm going to divorce. I don't deserve the physical or emotional abuse from her any more.

[lovelyolive]

OMG Sol - I don't even know what to say. I'll be thinking about you, oK?

[mcojh]

OK Sol, sorry I missed your call. I was out with the family at the Zoo and had a bad signal.

1-You did great. You showed great restraint and did what needed to be done.

2-I missed the suicide threat thing, but if she does threaten suicide, call the police and report it. They will come out and likely have her brought in for an evaluation. If not, at least it will teach her to not make threats to scare you.

3-If she hits you again, call the police. Report it and if the Officers make the decision to arrest her, so be it. In most cases it is the officers that make the decision to arrest, it is not based on the victims statement.

4-Look in your phone book for a domestic abuse hotline. They are there to aid victims in getting out of a bad situation. You are not their normal victim, but they are there to help you.

5-DO NOT allow yourr self to be sucked into another argument. I don't mean to sound sexist ladies, but our society tends to take a harder stance against males involved in domestic situations. The male is likely to be either removed from the residence or arrested if it is a mutual combatants situation.

Lastly Sol, know that we are here for you, speaking for myself, you, your daughter and SS are in my prayers, as is your wife.

May God Bless you and help guide you to find your way out of this.

[Dr LOve]

sol

All I got My W was a cheap card. I didn't expect a thank you and I didn't get one.
Your W should not be hitting you but at least ya get a reaction out of her. Mine just walks around like we are room mates nothing more.
Sorry for your bad day. Stay strong. I don't think I could have kept calm like you did.

H

[~Sol]

MC,

All I have is a voice recording and my SS's witnessing of my W hitting me this morning. I didn't get hurt, but it was more emotional trauma from her than getting bruised.

A question.....I am documenting this stuff here on the site but also in my emails. Do I need to write it on paper and sign it to make a "real document"?

I'm just starting to take things seriously and to protect myself, but I also want to protect the kids and make sure my W doesn't follow through with her "suicide threats". The next time she says anything about committing "suicide" or threatening to leave with my daughter or hits me again, I will call the police and get a report made. Then I will go to a lawyer and present my case. I am still going to the courthouse this week to gather my paperwork.

[12102006]

Sol

...what disturbing news today...I'm so sorry to hear this.

First, if it happens again, do call the police...she can be
Baker-Acted for 72 hours...also, suicidal threats are to be
taken very seriously. Your wife is ill...she has enormous
anger towards herself and is projecting it towards you. Try
to steer clear of her...as far as moving out...don't...let her
move out...stay in that house.

At this time, yes, an attorney is needed, for your rights and
those of your SS and daughter. When violence starts, it's time
to end the marriage...no amount of guilt, sorries, pleading, or
begging will ever justify or allow for abuse...it's past that
now - she's out of control.

As far as the flowers versus gold...rubbish, anything given to
another should be appreciated due to the fact it was a gift.
Her immaturity shows clearly...as well as her lack of financial
responsibility in regards to the late house payment.

I've always been here for you...I will continue to do so.

BTW, great artwork...Ben forwarded to me,. via e-mail your web-
site...very talented, my friend...excellent work.

Don't worry, protect yourself...

[~Sol]

1210,

I was wondering when I would here from you.

I've been told to stay at a friend's house when W is here - but since she works nights and I days, I can still stay here and avoid her during our working schedules. On her nights off, if she is abusive still, I was told to leave and stay at a friend's - if only to cool things off and avoid any more drama.

I don't plan on completely moving out, but if we are heading for a separation agreement to be served, I need for her to either agree to sell the house, or to keep it in her name or for her to move out. I know I don't want to get baited for "abandonment" which is what her divorced friends might tell her to bait me with. She has already threatened me to get out with my things.

I just want this marriage to end. It's ashame that I have to wait one year with a legal separation agreement. And that's another thing, I don't know if or how to get her to agree to separate. I know she won't, and wants to stay with me out of spite and make me "suffer"......This is getting ridiculous with her.

I guess I will have to go in to see a lawyer about what to do after all.

And thank you for your compliment. It is ALWAYS a pleasure to hear that!

[Astimegoeson]

thats the truth, sol. when the physical crap starts, it's time to hit the road. make sure you document her behavior, her outbursts. you deserve better.

Ford is right here sol. Your sitting on a powder keg. Get out before somebody gets hurt or the law is dragged into it.