Sashaying thru Seperation III

[DadNotQuitting]

Glad to see it all went well. I, like you, tend to be very quick to try to interpret actions of our Ws and try to find out what it really means in terms of the relationship. Of course, that usually seems to be a fruitless endeavor, but we keep doing it, don't we? Her walking away to sit in the shade alone, in my opinion, has to be her feeling the normalcy of the day; being with her husband, son, spending another Mother's Day together, a casual day at the zoo, a picnic. How could anybody, with any sense of compassion whatsoever, want to give this up? No, it isn't traveling the world high adventure, but that is not what most want anyway. It also isn't the "euphoria" of the sitch with OM (which seems faded already), but again, isn't a day like this why we all sign up for the ride anyway?

I think she's hanging out with you because she has serious questions about giving it all up. Sure, you two have your fair share of problems, and from you said, you have a lot of improving to do as well. She wants to be sure those changes are for real in you, so maybe every time together is some sort of test. I know you stated you have always had a hard time showing your feelings and all, and now you aren't "allowed" to go that deep per the rules of DB. Quite a conundrum, wouldn't you say. At any rate, it seems like she's testing the waters to see if it is safe to come back in. Certainly sounds like the green grass on the other side of the fence she went after has turned brown (and fat - couldn't help it).

That said, I've been known to be wrong too, so you get what you pay for.

Keep up the working out. Feels great, doesn't it?
DNQ