789, good luck to you man! Allow yourself to be happy with who you are and who you are becoming. Work on yourself, you WON'T be able to stop being concerned about your W but you can release the worry and the constant thinking. I like how you mentioned you were doing all the "don'ts" in the first few days after the bomb - I'll betcha we all did - I did it for like 2 weeks and just made everything 1000000X worse. You have a great chance since it sounds like your W is very communicative with you and still wants to be around you, that's a huge plus. Just take the D seriously, yet don't let it own you. Make sure your changes are for you and show your W with actions that you love her - actions speak louder than words, remember. As she sees you're serious, she'll open up to you.

GOOD LUCK!!!!

We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.

3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...