I agree with KML. One of the things that I am learning is when there is a confrontation or when my W gets upset it is because she is in pain and doesn't know how to express that to me in a constructive way. This one of the hardest things for me to remember when my W is getting mean with me.
One of the positives that I would take from your confrontation is that your W is saying that she doesn't want a D. You atleast have that rightnow. Now how do you go about building on this... That I do not know. My W is not even saying that to me rightnow. I believe that if I can ever get my W to commit to MC then we can atleast get to were you are at currently. We have been scheduled to start counseling with her counseler twice now and my wife cancelled both of them with me. Heck I was told that I was unethical for calling and leaving a message for her counsler informing her that the A is continueing.
Staying calm during your sitch this morning shows me your great strength. I commend you for that. Keep your chinup, you deserve to be treated better then this, you just need to figureout away to show your W in a nonconfrontational way that you will not allow her to treat you like this anymore.
Here is a little advice that I recently have gotten. Hopefully it can help you....
"As for what you need to do, start by realizing your own worth, and that you deserve better than a cheating wife who doesn't act like she wants to give you the time of day. Turn the tables on her. Take the attitude that she's going to have to earn her way back to you! You make a woman feel like she's suddenly missing out on something good and she'll whip a running saw mill to get to it."
