I think you're right. The more I thought about it, the more I decided not to do it. I think I'll just wait and see what happens. I really don't know what I want right now.
I was reading other posts under MLC and the more I read, the more I think that is what XH is going through. He has unresolved childhood issues with his dad that have affected him since we've been married. His parents divorced when he was 13 and his dad basically cut all communication with him. Promised to see him, etc. and never did. My XH to this day still talks about being promised to be taken on a vacation his dad was planning and at the last minute decided to take his new wife's son instead of him. His dad moved to AZ a couple of years ago and didn't even tell him. We live in MN, so it's not close. His dad passed away in October which basically left everything undone and unresolved with no possibility of closure. His dad's wife didn't even let anyone know he had passed away until 2 weeks after his death. Then there was a memorial service here for his family and again she didn't tell my XH or his siblings when it was so they didn't get to go. What a mess.
Plus, he has been very unhappy in his job the last year but feels "stuck" there since he never went to college or got any training after high school. He's a hard worker and is good at what he does, but I know he feels like a failure in that area. He makes a decent living, but not what he would like and I know he thinks he will never be able to find anything else. He's applied at a few places over the last year, but hasn't been called for an interview so I'm sure that only intensifies his feelings of worthlessness in that area.
After reading the posts in MLC, I don't know if I can deal with it. I did not know a whole lot about MLC because my father never went through anything like that--I asked him. I had no idea it can last up to five or six years. I have patience, but I don't think that much. Most of those people qualify for sainthood in my book. So, right now I guess I'm going to take a wait and see approach and GAL of my own and be happy no matter what happens. I feel good right now--I just hope it lasts.
I hope you are having a good Mother's day. Take care.
