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[S.T. _I Made It!]

Phil,

I only say that she may "break" away from you right now because of how confused she is. My H never really "left" our home, although he did spend the night at a friends many times. After DBing, things just slowly got better between us, more cordial like, and maybe even did some things together with the kids and stuff..and even some physical things. Well, a couple months after that, maybe more, he wanted me to stay at my moms for a while (couldn't tell me how long) and I really debated whether it was right for me to do that. He said he needed time alone (said that before and went to you know who's house- luckily she lives in another state) but I tried to trust God in it and told him that I would. Well, during that time things were slow, but then txting between us kept getting more an more often and even talking a whole lot. then about a month later was when he said he wanted me to be his wife forever.

So I just know that right now your W is confused. this is a good thing. before, she totally wanted out, she thought she had her answer. well, guess what, now she's not really sure what she wants, and it sounds like she's growing closer and closer to you. You just need to continue what your doing, continue getting closer to God, and allowing him to do things in His time, not yours.

I really think my sitch went too fast. Although I'm definitely glad I got thru it in mostly 7 months, but still, like Michelle talks in the book, or maybe it was someone else, that if it takes a long time, you know it's more genuine. So just have patience. I know that we want so badly to be told that what our S is doing are signs in the right direction, and we want to know WHY for everthing, but it really doesn't matter. Just keep your faith going and DBing and Galing and all that, and things will fall into place. I totally see a reconciliation with you and your W, but you know what you need to keep doing. Remember too, that you need to do these changes for you, and not just for her, otherwise they will not last.

hope that helps some!