Jeff and SE--Thanks for everything you said because it is true. I know if he moves back in and it doesn't work out, it will be very hard on our son and me also, but I'm more concerned about my son.
To be honest, right now I don't even know if I want to try. Maybe it's just better that it's over. I was thinking of writing him a letter instead of trying to talk to him on the phone or face to face. I was thinking a letter might be better since it would give him time to think about what I said and not expect him to respond right away like a verbal conversation would. I was thinking of saying something along the lines of:
I'm confused about why you want to move back here. Do you just want a different place to live than your current situation or do you want us to be together? It doesn't seem like you want "us" since you have not shown any interest in spending time with me or on rebuilding our relationship. I don't want you to move back here unless you truly want to have a relationship with me. I want a whole relationship--communication, physical contact, affection, a sex life. I feel like you think you are doing me a favor by moving back here--that I can't "survive" without you. But I can and I am. I have to be able to trust you again and I want to understand what happened between us. If you are unwilling to work on that, you should not move back here. I want you to come back with your whole heart in it--anything less would be unfair to Cameron and me.
What do you two think? Should I add anything else? I thought about the tax thing some more last night too and I'm going to tell him to write me a check for the portion he still owes. I'm going to say that it's probably best we stick to the divorce agreement and not have a joint account for awhile since there are no guarantees that things will work out between us. Maybe I should put that in the letter too.
Thanks again for everything. The sun is shining--it's going to be a beautiful day. Enjoy!
