Yes I can understand where you're coming from. I've added a signature now, and it put that H rcomitted in Oct 2006 but it took me until April 2007 to feel "safe". I still realise that this is very much a journey, but I now have that feeling of safety.
I got it by very much keeping the focus on me, by giving myself space and not telling myself off all the time. I can't quite put my finger on it, but I suppose I'm posting to say YES I know how you feel and the trust that it's not going to go all wrong again takes time to develop, it cannot be forced and there is very little either person can do about it except be patient and carry on trusting.
Check out SD Found Girl's posts as well, she too is learning to get the trust back, and doing a great job too. You will get there too - it takes time and that lovely P word - Patience
PS did you watch Eurovision last night? We have a party at home, I dressed up as one of Buck's Fizz, H was a metaller. We all wanted Ukraine to win, they were MAD!!
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.
