Just something of an update. I had an extended session with the C I have been seeing on Friday. We actually went way overtime because we hit so many things that were like enlightenment to me. We talked about how little investment my W has actually put into our marriage. Examples? I cannot remember a single card, gift or any other kind of aknowledgement from her for our anniversary in 14 years. I have bought cards, flowers, gifts, set up dinners and nothing ever back the other way. Her excuse has always been that with kids and school, blah blah that she couldn't even remember the day of the week. My C's response? Ok, then why didn't she ever apologize and make it up a few days later? My C's conclusion? Our marriage has never been important enough for W to make special days like our anniversary...special. WOW! Talk about a revelation! I can count the number of dates set up by W, special evenings or anything else W ever did to make our marriage stronger or give us time together without running out of fingers (probably on one hand, lol). We talked about a time before we were even married that I asked W about previous experience and she was evasive and would not answer the question. C's conclusion was that I was not important enough to W for her to be honest with me. Even if it was all about her own shame for a checkered past, I deserved honesty and W could not get past her own issues enough to make honesty to me a priority.
I don't know.....does this sound familiar to any other sitches? B4? Tom? The love of my life does not sparkle so brightly anymore. Its time to start changing directions I think.
Stand up for what is right, even if you are standing alone.
