you can start taking some internal baby stepts to changer your manifested behavior.
1) stop all the thought processes that run along the lines of 'I give her my heart/soul/love and she stomps on my heart. She doesnt want the ability to hurt you. so stop giving it to her.
2) stop thinking about what life would be like if you were to get divorced. Its mental sabotage. Stop planning for what you really dont want to have happen. See where you want to be, make it a goal, and created steps for yourself to get there.
My wife's trainer is now sending her text messages on her phone. He wants to know when they're going to "hang out" again. He's called her, including tonite when she said she had to run to the store to get flowers for her mother for Mother's Day, while I was home cooking a nice steak dinner for her and our family.
the next time he txts her, pick up the phone press the call button and when he answers it, Say in your strong voice cheerfully..
Hello Mr.jerkwad. (dont really say that you can think it really loud though.) We are spending the evening together as a family. If you need to reach Mrs. Choco about anything work related feel free to call the house, but try not to make it a habit. Cool? Thanks.
it may not do anything, your wife will probably be embarassed or protest, but at least you are pissing your circle.
Choc, these guys want what you have because you are the top guy. You have the big house, and the beautiful wife and the family, and back in hs and college were pretty damn good with the ladies. Everone wants to shoot at the guy on top and try to take what he has to see if they measure up.
